How can I home educate my children if I’m not a teacher?

by | Mar 23, 2020

What does it mean to have to home educate your children now the schools have closed?

Having to home educate when you're not a teacher - Nikki Young

The rapid spread of the Coronavirus has meant events moving very quickly indeed. I think we all knew, deep down, that schools would close evenutally, but I don’t know about you, I thought we would at least get to the Easter holidays. My children were due to go off on their Easter break on the 26th March, so we were almost there, but not quite.

Missing out on important exams.

My eldest is part of an historical year group – the ones who didn’t sit their GCSEs. It’s incredible when you think about it. Her school do the RS exam in Year 10, so that’s one at least. My daughter was doing art and textiles and just managed to get in her final art assessment last week. So that’s two. The textiles assessment was today and tomorrow and the school were going to bring them in to do it, but decided against it at the last minute. It’s just too risky to have them in now. We’re at that point.

So how do we keep them motivated at home?

I spoke to three friends last week who all home educate their children. We recorded the conversation on Zoom, so you can watch it if you want to (it’s on my Facebook page). My main take-out from this conversation was that what we are being asked to do, as parents, is quite different to what those who currently home educate actually do. We are affectively being asked to keep school going, whereas they follow their own path and it’s very much a child-led thing.

It’s important we put our mental health first.

Not only are we worried about what is going on in the world, we’re also concerned with what will happen to our jobs. We don’t need the added stress of trying to educate our chidren.

If what the school is asking you to do is not working – don’t do it. As simple as that sounds, it’s the best advice you can take. Contact your child’s school and tell them you’re struggling. We are all entering a period of uncertainty and it’s a case of trial and error at the moment.

If you have young children, don’t stress about their academic education. There are so many other things they can learn about life in general.

Today, my eleven-year-old son decided he was going to stick to his usual time table. First on the agenda for this morning was DT, but sometimes they do art or cookery during this time. He decided to make some biscuits.

Before I had come downstairs, I had been asked so many questions, he was out of breath from coming up and down the stairs. I told him to stop and think about it for a moment, before coming straight to me. I told him this unique time was an opportunity to make mistakes and find out for yourself how things work and how to do things (you can have that one if you like!). As a parent (one like me who tends to get involved a little too easily), it meant stepping away from the kitchen and leaving him to it, ignoring the noises, ignoring the mess – I only helped him chop hazelnuts as we do not need accidents at this moment in time.

This is a great time for our children to use their own initiative and imagination to boost the boredom.

I nurture creativity with the work that I do with children at my Storymakers Writing Club. It may be based around writing, but the skills required to come up with an idea, organise your thoughts into a logical order and execute them, are all transferable, as is the ability to use the imagination and come up with creative solutions. We need our children to be more like this anyway. Far too often, the structure of school squashes this side of them down. There’s very little time for free thinking and creativity due to the constraints of the curriculum.

Not any more. Not for the foreseeable future anyway.

My middle daughter, being in Year 8, has been asked to use Firefly (the school CRM), along with Microsoft Teams, for virutal lesssons. I think the idea is that they will turn up to school (virutally) and follow the timetable as far as is possible. We will see how that pans out. For my son, he’s been given an example timetable he might wish to follow, or he can use his usual school one. Alternatively, he can come up with his own. He’s been assigned a personal tutor, who will be checking in with him most days.

Whatever you decide, the trick is to keep up the momentum.

I am grateful that the sun is shining, because if all else fails, they can get outside for some fresh air. Where better than to develop core strength and to hone both fine and gross motor skills than outside playing. These are skills that will transfer to their writing, believe it or not and they’re often neglected or poorly developed because they’re not developed fully. I see that all the time.

Try not to despair. You are not alone and you will find that if you get on to social media. A lot of people, myself included, are speaking live every day, to check in. Doing video calls with friends is also a life-line.

You are not on your own. Even if it may feel that way.

Look after yourself and take care.


  1. Johanne Winwood

    Sensible advice, Nikki. As a retired teacher I feel so sad for all the parents who think they suddenly have to morph into teachers over the weekend. Even though I was trained to teach I’d find it very hard to do anything remotely ‘school’ like with my own son. The relationship isn’t the same for the first thing. And how are you supposed to know about all the stuff on the bloody National Curriculum!
    I say, let the kids decide what they want to do and let them explore things if at all possible. They will hopefully soon be back in the school system and with any luck will have picked up some new skills and interests while away.
    Good luck!

    • Nicola Young

      That’s sound advice and I totally agree. Have you put this on social media? You should


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